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They’re Following Me

Following Me

Consequences for children are the dreadful results they endure following bad decisions. The consequences may be spending time in their room without any electronic devices. Or, they may have to endure hard labor like loading the dish washer, or scrubbing the bathroom. However, what happens when a naughty parent exercises bad decisions? Worse yet, what happens to the adult when no evidence exists of their destructive decisions. The guilt from the crime exists and it has places to hide. Or, does it?

New Location
Poor behavior can be masked, covered, cleaned, even pardoned. But, it does not truly go away until it is released. While a child has authority figures that are positioned to dispense punishment, the authority figure can often conveniently pardon themselves without pain. Grown-up problems can be secretly masked with addictive substances, or intellectually justified with twisted logic. They can be compartmentalized by blaming extraordinary pressures, or unfair expectations. Unfortunately, the new psychological location for the problem does not really move the problem. The problem’s location is not the issue. It follows the perpetrator everywhere. Resolving guilt associated with the issue is the only available relief. Grown-up problems cannot be sent to their rooms. And, they definitely cannot be swept under the rug.

New Attitude
Promises to change behaviors regularly fall short. Internal promises to do better is merely a larger, well-organized trunk to hide the problem unsuccessfully. Relief only comes with a new attitude. Furthermore, the new attitude needs new behaviors to accompany it. Many grown-up missteps are addressed with therapy, or accountability. A new attitude targeting specific priorities and decisions are the only path to true relief. Whether the attitude now highlights forgiveness, regret, or rehabilitation, the change must occur at the point of individual decision. Grown-up problems are often hard to forgive; they are often harder to forget. But, new attitudes leading to better behaviors demonstrate pathways to problem ownership. Problems ranging from blatant lying to infidelity to substance abuse accompany incredibly deep wounds. But, an improved attitude coinciding with life-affirming behaviors uproot destructive problems from a bad location to an open environment. Then, they can be exposed, addressed and ultimately defeated.

Moving grown-up issues to a new location does not achieve resolution. They follow you. Only addressing the problem from an emotional level leads to resolution. Even without a conscience weighing down the individual following harmful decisions, the resultant cover-up comes with significant gravity. Nevertheless, a changed mind, or a new attitude, creates a mindset where genuine reform can happen. Then, healing has a chance. Better choices and behaviors reflect the next step. The process requires much more than surviving the night without video games or a smart phone. But, the longevity and productivity associated with emotional health lasts much longer. A new attitude resulting in better behavior clearly sets the example for genuine rehabilitation, particularly when a child chooses to break family rules. Furthermore, the corrected attitude happens earlier, as opposed to the problem growing into the next generation.

 
By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

May 24, 2017 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Community, Better World | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Next Best Idea

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Great leaders do not have exclusive rights to great ideas! Mediocre leaders definitely do not, regardless how much they believe they do. In making decisions, request ideas with the expectation of exploring them. The purpose is to create an environment of creative problem solving, not placating contributors. Every idea is not good, nor salvageable. But, the right process increases perspectives and ideas for circulation. Progress despises ninth place trophies. Monday’s idea may be dumb, but Wednesday’s idea may be game changing. But the group never gets Wednesday’s idea, if Monday’s ideas are choked. Avoid embracing the second best idea. But, the next idea may be the best for organizational growth.

Trust the Process
Encourage contributions. Leadership conveys authority, not ultimate intelligence. Evaluate and digest each suggestion. Celebrate creativity and input. Effective brainstorming accepts all ideas before a vetting process starts. In many circumstances, time does not permit the acceptance of all ideas. However, by creating the environment where encouraged ideas surface, more ideas emerge under any time constraint because of trust in the process. More ideas, more diverse opinions result in more opportunities for an optimal solution.

Leaders belittling inferior contributions effectively choke future contributions. Not discouraging the idea is vastly different from endorsing inferior input. Accepting and evaluating assorted contributions need to be part of the organizational culture. Contributors with seemingly dumb suggestions often facilitate discussions that challenge assumptions. The possibility clearly existed, but fear of challenging established protocols most likely stifled it. Open processes generate unconventional ideas that lead to innovation. Allow the group to benefit from new ideas.

Reward the Result
Leaders have authority which typically involves making decisions. Weak organizations fixate on making motions and casting votes. Sometimes protocol dictates that process to prevent abuses of power. Other times organizations default to that position to pretend to value all contributions. Still other times, organizations default to mediocrity by cowering behind fairness. But, effective leadership makes decisions! Part of the decision making process is rewarding contributions. Ideally, the expectation becomes that the best executed opportunities will deliver the best results. Give the organization the opportunities to execute the best ideas. Encourage ideas with clear and conspicuous rewards based on open input.

Requesting more input enables more innovation. Many problems result from old assumptions leading to poor performance. Poor performance can be avoided by growing a culture that actively welcomes and rewards the best ideas. Seek the best paths to the most favorable results. Assuming that the leader has all the answers is a recipe for disaster. Leaders make errors. They subscribe to poor theories. Sometimes they genuinely believe lies, then innocently spread them. Consequently, test seemingly bad ideas to unlock potentially valuable insight. Cultivate different perspectives. A different set of assumptions and experiences may result in unexpected value.

Ultimately, leaders who genuinely ask for contributions get them. Dealing with suggestions honestly, respectfully, and authentically creates an environment where suggestions have a chance to contribute to the greater good. All ideas are welcome. They may be discarded. They may be lousy. But, they are welcome. Seek the value in the bad ideas. Challenge assumptions. Leaders may have more authority. They do not have exclusivity to accuracy. Solicit ideas. Be open to new insights. The proposed solution may be lousy. But the next, best idea, that surfaces because the group believed in the process, may be the most valuable of all!

 
By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

May 10, 2017 Posted by | Better Business, Better Communication | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Building Relationship Is For Them

 

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Who doesn’t want to be loved? Some people seem to attract strangers who are willing to share their life stories. Whether they have an empathetic ear or a trusting face, these lucky listeners have people approach them with personal details. The best of these folks embrace their abundant relationship trait. Patience is often a common characteristic. An electric smile emerges as a sure sign in other cases. Nevertheless, recently two friends laughed over really good coffee about how they manage the unusual attraction of people who willingly over-share.

Music
Friend One is a musician who has a full dose of the relationship trait. As a working musician, he finds himself in assorted halls, theaters, and churches where he encounters diverse fans. Invariably, after a set, fans and listeners are inclined to pull up a chair to share. Friend One believes his highly evolved ear makes him a gifted listener.

He receives their input by listening intently. Too often, people do not really want someone to solve their problems; they want someone to listen to them. They equate listening with caring. Because Friend One listens well, his audience believes he cares well. Consequently, they share well and in turn, experience relationship. Friend One’s gift is establishing connectivity with people who need it. The music is simply a vehicle.

Lecture
Friend Two on the other hand, is a lecturer. Whether teaching, presenting, or consulting, he dispenses knowledge for listeners to apply. Establishing rapport is a skill he has developed over time. But in order to personalize information, he has to understand his audience in as much detail as possible. His primary skill is questioning.

Great lecturers do not necessarily create knowledge. But realize that knowledge is more readily available now than at any time in history. A great lecturer personalizes the knowledge. They present information in ways that multiple individuals in the audience want to receive it. Consequently, asking the right questions, while sharing information to ensure understanding, is an exceptionally valuable attribute. And, as the audience responds, either by individual or as a crowd, the connection becomes more firmly established. And, whether the bold learners address him during Q & A, or the extremely bold learners approach as he packs his materials to leave, Friend Two reinforces connection by exchanging more information individually.

Fundamentally, connecting with people happens at an emotional level. President Theodore Roosevelt stated, “Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.” The conversation is just the foundation. The listening and connecting is where the value happens. Relationship is the foundation of human and commercial value. Would you buy your morning coffee from someone if you do not believe it is going to be good (or at least dark & hot)? Whether the power comes from listening or questioning, it is the personalized dialogue that expresses caring. And caring is the foundation of relationship.

So, in building relationship, how do you express caring? When are you most receptive to connecting?

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond

April 5, 2017 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Community, Better Person, Better World | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Get On The Lifeboat

Titanic Band

According to historic accounts, the band played until the Titanic sank. People’s lives are at stake, and these musicians did their jobs. Jobs are important. But, priorities have a hierarchy. Preserving life is more important than hitting your note. Flatteringly, history acknowledges that the musicians provided a noble service. Still, an individual possesses a higher calling than their occupation. Each individual must take into account their entire contribution for every community where they participate. Then, maximize it. If the ship is sinking, make it a priority to help others get on the lifeboat. Life is precious. Consequently, by all means get on the lifeboat, too!

Your Job
Receiving value for individual contributions is part of the economy of humanity. When money enters the equation, quantifying the contribution’s value and discerning comparisons, become measurable, if not easier. Roles as parent, sibling, companion, mentor, bridge partner, or golfing buddy also matter. Fulfilling the highest contribution takes many forms. Understandably, work demonstrates economic and psychological worth. But, what happens when a worker’s replacement is identified? Is the predecessor rendered worthless? What about the boss who benefited from extraordinary efforts from previous staff? Is that contribution marginalized by the inability to maintain productivity? To the contrary, effective leaders constantly develop talent for contingencies. Inevitably, needs emerge for replacements. Hopefully, contributors evolve and grow. No rational individual should confuse their entire personal value with their organizational position, or economic contribution. The job is important. So is individual self-worth.

Your Responsibility
Saving and comforting perishing passengers is a noble duty. However, every individual has individual gifts to perpetuate. The Titanic’s exceptional musicians admirably performed their jobs and tragically left gaping holes with friends and families. Ultimately, responsibility is contributing to a greater benefit than the individual. The job is important. Fulfilling each human’s potential is also important. A higher responsibility is to contribute to family, community, and mankind. That greater purpose features assorted talents. Develop and deliver diverse and evolving skills that greater purpose. Seek opportunities to grow and contribute more. Ignoring that personal responsibility empowers someone else who will gladly use the value of such individual gifts for their own personal improvement.

Try naming ten martyrs. How about five? On the other hand, quickly name five lives that you presently enhance! Your personal gifting, not your professional role enhances those lives. Clearly, establish a purpose and fulfill it. It can certainly coincide with professional duties. Performing a job well is important. But, it does not qualify as a life purpose. Account for the impact that an individual’s successful performance delivers. Recognize the difference between a duty and a calling. A duty is the performance of a task for a specific benefit. A calling is the application of individual passions and skills to maximize contribution for many. No one can save another in the long-term, if the first person sinks in the present. Yes, you have a job. You also have a responsibility. To maximize your personal contribution, choose which of your attributes impact the lives or community that most matter to you individually! Prioritize and deliver on that calling.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond

March 8, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better World | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

All My Previous Addresses

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“I think we are a product of all our experiences.”, according to legendary banker, Sanford Weill. That quote became crystal clear when a pastor friend became privately furious when someone tried to take advantage of him in a business deal. The adversary mistakenly took the pastor’s kindness for weakness. Consequently, the pastor planned to attack more than his character. Considering that the pastor grew up in violent communities, his plan involved more wrath than forgiveness. Nevertheless, the small group erupted with laughter when the pastor threateningly snarled about his adversary, “He doesn’t know all my previous addresses!”

Where You’re From
As a man of God, the pastor had attained a respectable position in his community and among his congregation. As a troubled youth he had learned how to extract revenge and never show weakness. Whether earning a PhD from Oxford or a GED from the School of Hard Knocks, people apply lessons from their individual history into their personal growth. Every individual’s past is a foundation for their future. The strength used to navigate through a ruthless past is the same strength used to develop unconquerable character. The caterpillar that enters the cocoon has the same character as the butterfly that releases from it. The transformation equips it with better tools, but the tenacity to escape and ability to fly was in there all along. Success requires acknowledging the past; all of it. Channeling experiences from early conquests to develop new and improved skills result in future victories.

Where You’re Going
Everyone is heading somewhere. Many sermons point out, “You’re either going into a storm, in the middle of a storm, or coming out of a storm.” Regardless, progress is about the journey, not just the destination. Be aware of both. The journey is not linear. Pick a direction anyway. Pursue the mountain top that everyone sees, yet fear prevents them from ascending. Those left behind will hurl discouragement from the valley. Others will present obstacles from above fearing progress will soon overtake them. Nevertheless, grasp all previous experiences to build momentum. Let the insults and obstacles serve as stepping stones toward progress. Feel free to lead others also willing to ascend toward higher destinations.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”, according to President Theodore Roosevelt. Ultimately, individual skills, experiences and values are the most prized possessions. Limits do exist. But, they usually exist well beyond where most people dare to climb. You did in fact live at your previous address. And, then you lived at another address. No one needs to know all your previous addresses. But as you climb, the new address is the one that matters. And, the next one does too. Furthermore, the same skills and characteristics that began the ascensions serve as the foundations for the next plateau. Progress prohibits remaining at previous addresses. But, it is essential to remember the lessons they provided, and the power that they birthed!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond.

February 8, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Learning?? What’s my Grade!!

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What do I have to do to get an “A”? This refrain echoes throughout classrooms everywhere. “What do I need to know to get my certification?” is another version of the same song for the professional learner. Unfortunately, learning is not embraced, nor respected in neither case. Students want to benefit from presented information as painlessly as possible. The act of learning is just a necessary evil. Too often, learners in classrooms at any level are so eager to swallow and regurgitate information that they never digest the lesson. They fail to grow. They do not progress.

The Journey
The process of learning multiplies value through connections to more information and skills. Too often students simply give correct answers to get to the next lesson. Then, they can ace that part, too. Learning’s real value involves applying acquired knowledge in new, innovative, and more beneficial ways. A student masters algebra, in order to conquer calculus, then get their diploma. Except, the diploma is not the end. Learning to process information with multiple variables is the point. Then, understanding more complex processes to explain them to others creates the most value. Do not be shortsighted. The student who learns, applies, explains and contributes knowledge to a group becomes the boss and eventually benefits more. Every student moaning, “Why do I have to learn this; I’ll never use it in the real world” deserves the harsh response, “You are right. You never will use this information or any other new information with that attitude!”

The Destination
While the journey is important, the destination facilitates growth. The journey features a finite set of instructions. But, the destination continues to evolve and expand. More learning results in more questions, which results in more innovation, which results in better answers. Acing the test and advancing short circuits all the compounded, long-term benefits. The worker brags about getting a great review. Meanwhile, the leader focuses on solving problems that significantly improve the enterprise and team member’s personal well-being. Rank and file mindsets complain that leaders have enough money and they do not need more. Therefore, she does not need the worker’s best contribution. The leader simultaneously thinks that this minor contributor is hurting the team’s efforts. Then, she searches for a replacement so that all can achieve more. Next the leader resumes planning to groom her successor, then charts a path to the next adventure. Mindsets of poverty fester and deny growth. Mindsets of prosperity continue to reset destinations and promote opportunities. Acquire and develop more resources to keep pursuing additional horizons.

Ultimately, “What do I have to do to get an A?” is the wrong question. “What do I have to do to pursue my destiny” is much more satisfying. Learning is more than acquiring facts. It is acquiring new ideas and constructing them creatively. Students who only want to learn familiar material in the same way are starving themselves. Permit multiple teachers to feed your curiosity. Learn, then spread, ideas across the landscape. Let losers argue and manipulate their grade in one class. Take new knowledge and apply it with innovation toward the next learning experience. Incorporate feedback and insight to create more value. Enormous value results from pursuing destinations that continue moving just beyond reach. So, “What do I have to do to get an A?” Who cares! “What do I have to do to maximize my value?” Keep learning! Then, share the lessons with others to help everyone involved benefit more.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter and Beyond

January 6, 2017 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Start Today

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Start today to embrace your greatness. We all have a past. Many of us wanted to be something great at an earlier time in life. But dreams are crushed. Then, events happen. We believe that we have no choice, or that choices are limited. In reality, we can change for the better every day. The greatness within us never left.

Pivot is currently a popular term. It is a decision to make a life change for the better. If we miss, we can still make another change for the better. Like a great cup of coffee in the morning, now represents the perfect time to start a new day. Disregard what happened yesterday. Although coffee tastes bitter, it remains wonderfully complex in its flavor. It can be bold, smooth, stimulating or relaxing. It largely depends on the environment where you enjoy it. It may even change according to the company that you keep while drinking it. Or, it can change with whatever flavors, creamers, sweeteners accompany the coffee. Every cup of coffee offers a new chance for a new experience for different people in different circumstances to enjoy individually.

Daily experiences typically behave similarly. The beginning starts when an individual awakens. Nowadays, the day can literally begin at any hour on the clock. Remote workers may be subject to following assorted time zones around the globe. Various occupations require goods to be produced or services delivered at any point in the day or night. Whether the work is performed on stage, in an office, or in a technology hub, results matter as much as a specific schedule. Individuals need to take ownership of that flexibility to optimize their personal preferences and professional performances. The critical objective is that the function starts and concludes according to a pre-determined schedule for a pre-determined outcome.

Every day is a new opportunity for a new beginning. Seize the moment. Depending on the coffee, a great start to any day can vary dramatically from an earlier day. A bold brew shocks the senses into action. A flavored latte lightens your disposition so that the day becomes manageable. But, in all cases the new beginning is in front of you. We all have choices. Today is a Caramel Macchiato, tomorrow is a Pumpkin Spice Latte, and the next day is a double espresso. Exercise choice. Every day is a new opportunity to execute a better personal strategy. Pick a metric. Pick a target. Pick up a mug of great coffee. Start getting better now. Be who you might have been!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

October 31, 2016 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , | 2 Comments

Chasing Yesterday

Chasing Yesterday

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.” ~Pablo Picasso. While Picasso was an extraordinary artist, his fatalism would mercilessly crush most overworked, time-compressed commoners. Yes, today’s priorities may unfortunately extend into the next day. But, in a world where emergencies do not stop when the shift ends, how do you catch up to ongoing assignments and responsibilities? Chasing yesterday reflects the hopeless case of one day’s action items rolling over to the next day where they collide with the new day’s action items!

Expiring Action Items
Before combating these runaway priorities, put them in a category before the next day arrives. Execute a divide and conquer strategy. Expiring items are activities with an expiration date. Priorities that must be done by today or the opportunity is gone. Request For Proposals fall into this category. Identify these quickly so that responsibility is met before the expiration window passes. Also, lunch has an expiration date. If you work through lunch and don’t make other plans, you will go hungry for that day. And, no amount of rabbits pulled out of your hat can erase that noontime hunger. Prepare better going forward to avoid that pain. But for the moment, accept that you are hungry and defeated.

Exploding Action Items
These items come with a time frame and a catastrophic event. These action items must be prioritized and managed with a call-to-action for additional resources. Payroll functions are exploding items. Organizational Armageddon results from incomplete payroll functions. Hell knows no fury like an unpaid employee! When these problems are identified, they are resolved before most other functions (except larger exploding items). Expiring items that rollover remain incomplete. The train has left the station. Exploding items leave collateral damage! When items are trending toward rolling over to the next day, test their urgency. If there are serious consequences, then take action. Escalate their priority. Items that are not urgent require acceptance that they will rollover to the next day. That item can then be chased again. But, minimize those still.

Chasing yesterday imprisons. Alternatively, ignoring problems means someone else inherits the responsibility. “Not my job” works for the individual. It sucks for the team, particularly when others depend on your contribution. Chasing yesterday results in unfinished business. Watching yesterday’s action items rollover slows progress. Furthermore, ignoring yesterday’s commitments multiplies problems. Determine whether you have expiring or exploding action items. Make a call. Manage the consequences.

 
By Glenn W Hunter
Managing Director of Mo Patton Sports, LLC
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

~Thank You T.P.

May 30, 2016 Posted by | Better Business, Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Listen to One Story

Tell a Story

“Patience is the most necessary quality for business, many a man would rather you heard his story than grant his request.” Lord Chesterfield, an 18th century English merchant said this. He was right then; he is right today! Everyone has a story. And, valuable connections result from listening to these stories. In fact, great stories continue long after the storyteller has left. By listening to one story, the right story, lives can change. But, for the story to maximize value, both the speaker and listener must benefit. The problem is too few people listen which limits the value. So, what exactly happens when the right individual listens to the right story?

The Power of Knowledge
Recently, I participated in a conversation with a local celebrity and a business colleague. The local celebrity casually shared personal challenges that had derailed his career. He had just met me, and knew my colleague mostly by reputation. Yet, he confided in us. We listened patiently, encouraging his alternate plans. We had no right to judge. Frankly, we were flattered that he shared a fairly intimate story. The celebrity’s story radiated power because it was personal and life-changing. The listeners absorbed the story’s power because they honored his confidence. Hopefully the celebrity will be comfortable trusting in the future, in turn transferring more power to additional listeners. They will benefit from his previous, weaker decisions. Despite the fact that we could not solve his problem, nor grant his request, our listening amplified the power of his knowledge. The story made a difference.

The Power of Trust
As this celebrity continues to trust more, he increases his outreach and influence. Trust inherently amplifies credibility, resulting in value creation. Good ideas are easy to get. However, executing them is hard which is why they are valuable. As trust builds, people share more, then do more. Listening to one story strengthens the bond between storyteller and listener. It becomes easier to tell another story. The result is even more power for both the audience and storyteller. In this case the celebrity summoned his power to impact additional lives. As listeners, my colleague and I can manifest additional value as we trust, then share our stories resulting in additional individuals’ improvement.

Sharing a story, receiving feedback and embracing validation paves the way to reproduce value creation. Each shared story strengthens personal bonds, resulting in greater accomplishments. It is synergistic. A storyteller conquers her inner fear. Listeners, in turn, overcome greater external threats! Additional listeners do not really need details. The audience simply needs permission to transfer trust that a shared story can build relationships and personal confidence. Embrace that responsibility. Tell a story. Then, listen to one. Give someone you newly trust permission to share your power!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter and Beyond

September 2, 2015 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person, Better World | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Don’t Get Angry

Angry

Why not get angry? Life sucks sometimes! However, anger clouds judgment. Cloudy judgment leads to poor results. And poor results blocks progress! For an individual to improve their life experience, the life experiences of people they influence, and the life experience of people who are held close, the focus must remain on positive results and personal progress! Anger does not help. Having a clear purpose and pursuing it does!

Life Gets Complicated
Clear purpose sounds great in theory… until real life gets in the way. To often, other people have a voice in personal decisions. Relationships get weird. Conflicting personal agendas emerge. Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few? Or the one? What about me? What about my needs? Regardless of such difficult questions, every individuals’ values eventually reveal their true priorities. Everyone honestly knows whether their individual desires are more important than their significant other, their family members, or their employer. Some of us really are self-centered. Some of us are co-dependent. Some of us require direction. Some of us are in denial. Identify your personality flaw and embrace it. If you do not like the flaw that you embraced, then grab another one. Regardless, your personality flaws will dictate your decisions. The sooner each of us realize this, the more effective we will be in achieving our goals. Be who you are, or change! But, ongoing internal conflicts help no one.

Then, There Are Consequences
Even while determining our dominant personality traits, the world continues to spin. Anyone can choose to make the rules, break the rules, or ignore the rules. But, expecting to control all elements involving multiple individuals is a fool’s errand. A leader may be in position to influence behavior of her followers. When successful, she can determine the outcomes before they finally happen. Nevertheless, consequences are a byproduct of factors that are beyond the expected outcomes. We may or may not get what we deserve, but we will get something! Too often, anger is a default emotion when an individual is not getting the something they want. Unfortunately, the anger compounds the problem. Consequences are no longer remotely predictable, chaos ensues and more emotions wreak havoc over the situation.

To overcome anger, clearly understand the problem and determine what undesirable outcomes can be tolerated. Identify what explicit consequences can be endured and immediately work toward preserving the value in the other outcomes. Yes, there will be collateral damage. Regardless, the new objective becomes salvaging some value from the situation.

Ultimately, everyone has issues. While certain issues may distract individuals from their specific goals, they do not necessarily stop them. To avoid the emotional disruption to progress caused by anger, keep three steps at the forefront. 1) Set clear targets. 2) Fix your gaze. 3) Execute relentlessly. In life, sometimes the issues win. But, that does not mean that your individual issues will win. Practice self-awareness to understand your life’s particular complications. Explore possible remedies. Re-focus on preferred outcomes when ugly consequences emerge. Get Angry. Get Over It! Continue racing toward your individually defined purpose.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond

May 26, 2015 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , | 3 Comments