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Defeating the Enemy Within

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Why do heroes always win? Because winners write history! Upon emerging from the battlefield, heroes create the legend. However, conflict and competition does not produce winners without producing ancillary damage, or unintended consequences. Sometimes winners lose comrades, integrity, or dignity. Nevertheless, no one else cares much about the failures that heroes endure on their way to epic accomplishments. Heroes simply win! But inside, winners know the sacrifices, scars and compromises involved with victory. So, how do they manage that internal conflict?

Emotion
“If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm” is an old African proverb. The enemy within magnifies vulnerability. Fear, insecurity, emotional baggage can cripple any effort. The emerging victor must first overcome their internal conflicts. The successful combatant must be emotionally superior to their adversary. They require more resolve and focus. Unyielding belief in victory is an exceptional advantage. Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Realize that fear is a notable weapon. Winners first attack opponents with heavy doses of negativity. In the heat of battle, “it does not matter whether I win or lose. It matters that I win and you lose!” In individual or group competition, projecting a losing mentality on the opponent creates huge advantages. Before engaging the enemy expose weakness in their character, their cause, and their core beliefs. Strip away the adversary’s why! Create doubt. The winner’s story will read that he crushed his enemy. In reality, he defeated the loser in the mind before even attacking the body.

Logic
To secure their inner advantage, winners must eliminate their own disabling thoughts. Kick out the enemy within! Confidence is fickle. Bravado is relatively easy to conjure and project. Real courage is trickier. Logic is an empowering agent. Identify core advantages. Size, strength, intellect are tangible attributes. Find advantages and create a battleground based on those characteristics. Logic has to make sense. It does not have to be accurate. Create logical structures to trick opponents into seeing obstacles that you wish to impose as the winner. Convince enemies that giants are waiting to kill them. They never have to know the giants are only windmills.

Victory ultimately relies on tactics. Whether deception or brute force create advantages, winners still must execute their plan. A combatant can psyche himself up to start, but eventually in the heat of battle, he must believe in his advantages. The enemy within who is a secret coward, must build a belief structure that has confidence in their attributes. Superior execution, according to a plan, becomes the dominant weapon once fear has been placed in the opponent and the winner performs with precision.

Is it emotion or logic? Both provide advantages in overcoming adversity. Master deploying one or the other… or both. Use tools, like obedience and faith, to remove internal obstacles, then focus on explicit goals. Whether the combat is a physical conflict, or a personal best performance, bring both a logically structured plan and an inspired mindset to the battle. Create a plan and execute. Personal success depends on it. Individual victory requires it. Defeat the internal adversary. Then, march over external enemies’ decaying carcasses. Write the epic story of your resounding conquest. Then, dominate your next challenge with confidence, experience and success.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter and Beyond

June 22, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Accountability To What?

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A herd of majestic buffalo rumble across the prairie creating a deafening roar. The ground literally shakes as they hurry in loosely orchestrated chaos. Upon reaching a cliff each one races beyond the edge and crashes into the rocks below. The insanity of the thundering group is catastrophic. At least, the group reached their tragic demise together. Buffalo herds, like traditional organizational structure, are built on blind loyalty to the larger group. Their success assumes higher collective intelligence. Sometimes, groups are wrong. People get hurt. Who was in charge?

Improving Performance
Leaders are established to help groups achieve specific results. Considering that such groups are collections of individuals seeking a common purpose or goal, leadership provides a structure facilitating that achievement. Particularly with time-sensitive goals, everyone running faster is a reasonable tactic. But, what about the individual? Is there contribution valued? Or, are they expected to be a component of some unknown, or loosely defined, plan?

Optimally, a group that unites for a specific goal features contributing members. By accessing more individual input, the group potentially benefits from increased output. A good plan is necessary. Additionally, it requires a leader taking responsibility for execution. By getting individuals to improve their input with better contributions, leaders coordinate and enhance results. In the absence of a leader, too often one emerges who will accept responsibility and the glory. But, does this truly meet the members’ of the body individual needs? Who is accountable?

Changing Behavior
Actually, leadership’s challenge is meeting the individual needs of the members of the body. The old saying, “If you want to be a leader, grab the baton and get in front of the parade.”, is both witty and frightening. Declaring a leader in the absence of one, does not mean the group’s needs are prioritized nor met. It definitely does not mean that individuals’ needs are prioritized and met. Yes, the leadership box is checked. Now, the herd is prepared to be led off the cliff, instead of randomly charging off it.

New and improved behavior requires individual accountability. To get behavior to change, every member must find individual benefit. When real leadership is applied effectively, processes and opportunities exist to develop individuals within the group’s framework. The body does not need four well developed arms to maximize performance. It needs two functional arms and two functional legs to perform in accordance with the established design. Sustainable results happen when individual components develop in alignment with the group’s success.

Essentially, the leader needs to equip group members to develop fully. The group members need to be equipped to fulfil their individual goals. Sounds like a lot of selfishness in the name of the team. However, individual self-interest is not selfishness. And anyone who claims that it is, secretly is unhappy that they do not have the group’s blind loyalty. Improving performance is easy. Changing behavior is hard. All members must contribute toward accountability to align behaviors. Otherwise, the result is ineffective leaders who essentially join the group in running off the nearest cliff.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

April 20, 2017 Posted by | Better Business, Better Community | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Prepare to Win, Perform to Win

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“We’re talking about practice. Not a game!… We’re talking about practice.” Hard core professional basketball fans still love quoting Allen Iverson’s practice rant from 2002. Iverson was making a point about the importance of performing even at the risk of minimizing preparation. Despite being an exceptionally unique and productive performer, history argues that he may have benefited from better practice habits. Unsurprisingly, in other competitive arenas, like business or entertainment, that truth regularly faces performers. Yes, we are talking about practice!

Preparation
Preparation for superior performance is not a singular act. Musicians practice regularly regardless of immediate performance obligations. Likewise, highly accomplished business professionals routinely identify opportunities for additional training in their areas of expertise. In fact, over-achieving professionals, will take time to train others in order to sharpen their own mastery. The preparation involved in their presentations promotes peak performance. The process clarifies their best thinking so that they can effectively provide maximum value to their audience and marketplace.

School children learn that practice makes perfect. Athletic coaches are fond of saying, “Perfect practice make perfect.” The truth about preparation regardless of the field, is that it is a necessary part of the process toward excellence. The more repetition endured in preparation, the better prepared the competitor will be to maximize their performance when the stakes are highest. Undoubtedly, talent provides several advantages. Yet, skill can be developed and improved. Preparing to perform is a skill that in turn enhances skill. This two-step tactic delivers superior results.

Performance
So, what happens when it is time to perform? And, how important is experience? Simply put, more experience produces better performance. When stakes are highest, no professional performer really wants to be searching for a solution. More practice, more preparation, and more learning activities eventually result in better equipped opportunities for superior performance. “If you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready.”

Skills and knowledge necessary for peak performance have typically already been explored. Perhaps a coach is available to share their experience in managing potential situations. Perhaps the repetition of intentional and intense practice included multiple scenarios expected to occur in competition. Successful sales professionals consistently rehearse and refine their pitch so that they can effortlessly overcome objections and conquer competitors. “Fortune favors the prepared mind.”, according Louis Pasteur. Take the time to prepare in your area of expertise so that your knowledge and discipline are engaged to propel you to targeted success.

The benefit of practice is that the prepared mind secures the advantage. In any competitive endeavor, the competition most likely expects to win, also. The nature of competition demands outperforming an opponent. Practice provides the edge. Structured and disciplined practice provides a bigger edge. Regardless, of the field, winning through competition produces rewards. Generate more sales, score more points, raise more money, discover a cure faster, save more souls. Winning is not an event; it is a process. Target the results. Prepare to win. Perform to win. Embrace the rewards.

 
By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

April 13, 2017 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Get An Old Man

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“You have to get an old man” advised the half-crazy upperclassman tutor to a group of freshman trying to survive their first term at an elite university. The freshmen were baffled how an old man could help navigate their coursework. Then, the tutor elaborated that the old man was for wisdom, not education. This was real-world knowledge. In any complex organization, success requires more than raw, intellectual firepower. Negotiating cultural landmines and systemic distractions requires understanding and revelation that only comes from wisdom. Figuring out any large institution demands more insight than any one individual can acquire in a few months. It takes scar tissue to navigate the intricacies of complex systems. Why not benefit from someone else’s wounds?

Wisdom
“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterward.”, according to Vernon Law. Wisdom comes from learning the lesson and surviving to tell the story! Lessons are not simply endured, they must be learned. Old men have already learned the lesson. Imagine the advantage of having the lesson before the test. Youth involves absorbing experiences for the first time. The advantage of maturity is knowing that someone’s first time, is most likely not the first time something happened. Youthful exuberance does not provide that perspective. Every old man was once young. Identify one that has walked the trail that youngsters are preparing to walk. Realize that the old man does not just know the challenges, they know how to avoid them.

Results
Another benefit of old men is that they have seen great ideas come and go. They have seen talented people long on vision and short on execution. They understand that results matter! The upperclassman had personally witnessed brilliant students that struggled because they had always excelled alone. They had never needed help, so never learned how to ask. Corporations, academia, bureaucracies are full of these types. The wise old man knows what newbies need before they do. He is not competing for a grade, or a promotion. He wants to be part of their success. Wisdom will be shared with someone and it will be valuable. Get in line and receive it.

The most fascinating part of engaging an old man is what he gets out of the deal. Some youngsters avoid bothering an old man because they have nothing to offer back. Their intelligence blocks their understanding. They assume they cannot reciprocate, then applaud their brilliance. Old men vary; often relevance is all they seek. Other times it is repaying an internal debt from when they finally accepted wise counsel. Occasionally, they see the greatness in a potential protégé that the youngster is afraid to embrace. Regardless, seek wisdom. Wisdom does not follow age. But, wisdom ages well. The old man does not have to be old. It does not have to be a man. Mentors only require understanding that can guide toward a desired result. Get an old man. Then later, remember to find a young person!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

March 22, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Bloom Where You’re Planted

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Community gardens uniquely reflect growth! The location’s inherent beauty and the unconquerable human spirit jointly emerge regardless of the surrounding environment’s condition. The individual may suffer. Aggregately, life thrives despite the surroundings. Whatever conditions may dictate the environment, in the presence of community, life perseveres. Similarly, great ideas are birthed wherever the human spirit intercedes. Today’s dilapidated warehouse becomes tomorrow’s technology hub. Like the garden in a field of asphalt, the result demonstrates that life, people and ideas have the capacity to bloom where they are planted.

Breakthrough
Before the garden spreads, the first seeds must have their breakthrough. All the seeds have the genetic capacity to emerge in harsh soil. However, certain seeds have either genetic tenacity, or a fortuitous crack near their germination which results in their breakthrough. People, and subsequently communities, must take advantage of breakthroughs as soon as they happen. Blooming never gets the chance without an available opportunity. Call it luck; call it favor; call it destiny. But to bloom where planted, the individual has to answer the call. Whenever someone emerges successfully from squalor despite nearby death and destruction, that individual seized their breakthrough and then absorbed a disproportionate amount of radiance and nutrients. Another nearby person may have had more innate talent. Yet, they failed to seize the resources that were available to all. Blooming requires grabbing resources where seeds take root, then expanding beyond the local boundaries. Do not wait for the next turn. Fight for resources that provide individual transformations.

Spread
Greatness is not a singular event. The bloom that emerges in their desolate environment needs to spread seed in the environment so that additional growth can occur. The garden is not successful with one stalk. Success requires a community of vegetation to make the soil healthy enough for more growth. The goal is to bloom where you are planted. It is not bloom, then wait to be transplanted. Even with expanding growth opportunities, no guarantee exists that every new seedling has a breakthrough. Bloom where you are planted requires cultivating a more vibrant and fruitful garden which enriches the soil to reproduce additional growth. The pockets of life interact. Their networking strengthens their aggregate opportunities to benefit each other and grow. A community does not grow one individual at a time. It grows and flourished when multiple pockets emerge in the same general location. The groupings share resources and nourishment, then the garden eventually changes its characters. The asphalt gives way to fertile growth.

Creating a vibrant community requires a symbiotic, pro-growth environment. Tilling, seeding, watering, pruning are all components of growing a garden, even a community garden. Spreading ideas and opportunities into pockets of growth facilitate the next generation enduring the same routine. Blooming is not a singular event. Growth demands time and replication. To change the environment, the enriched soil must be maintained. Remove weeds that choke the growth. Also, introduce outside influences that understand how to grow gardens so that they benefit from proven practices. Blooming communities require the ability to develop and nourish each other. It is difficult, but it is worthwhile. But to start, the first intentional cultivation must bloom where it is planted.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

February 22, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better World | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I Never Go Back, It Changed

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A friend told me they no longer visit their old high school. It changed. Well, he did too! The story in no way advocates living in the past. It is not a plea to “go back home” and change the old neighborhood. The point is to recognize that an individual is a composite of all their experiences. The successful person has more experiences and embraces them all. The past is part of an individual’s legacy – for good or for bad. The legacy is a byproduct of the changes that occurred. Change is a choice. Make the choice. The past is static. Go forward to a dynamic future.

Embrace Change
Regardless of the foundation, growth is based on new inputs and experiences. Revisionist history can reveal new insights, or perhaps tell an entirely different story. But, it does not change the events, or how they may impact an individual. The individual who continues to grow beyond their foundation, acknowledges the prior events, then embrace changes toward progress. Education is an easy example of this phenomenon. However, trials and tribulations are more powerful. The process of overcoming difficulty builds character, commitment and a chart toward triumph. Accept life challenges. Improve based on new experiences. Dare to be great. Upon escaping the furnace, the individual does not have to return to prove their mettle. But, he ignores character building challenges at his own risk.

Launch Change
Change is not inevitable. People stay stuck all the time. But, progress is impossible without change and a leap of faith. Some individuals deny the opportunity to go back because they never leave. But, leaping from any foundation propels forward. Each experience, each introduction, each risk brings a new set of potentially positive outcomes. Positive outcomes are not guaranteed. But, stagnant existence is fairly certain, if no movement exists at all. Risk does not have to indicate danger; but, it always represents opportunity. Fundamentally, success is a product of change. Energy starts and continues change. The energy can be a push out, or a lift up, or a shove down. But once the energy is released, change surely happens.

Accept the possibilities that involve choice. Accept it, then embrace it. Leave your past behind you, if you choose. No need to criticize the past after moving forward. Focusing on the past becomes a weight slowing an individual down, or worse, holding them in place. Regardless, change is inevitable. And, progress is not guaranteed. No need to go back, unless it is a choice. But if that is the choice, bring back progressive, forward- facing experiences. Upon returning, share experiences with the next person that goes forward. Just do not go back and add to the problems. Deciding not to go back because it changed is a choice. But, going back to show the path to progress is a virtue. The next one who embraces the risk is now prepared to launch into a better future. Be that difference.
By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

January 20, 2017 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Learning?? What’s my Grade!!

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What do I have to do to get an “A”? This refrain echoes throughout classrooms everywhere. “What do I need to know to get my certification?” is another version of the same song for the professional learner. Unfortunately, learning is not embraced, nor respected in neither case. Students want to benefit from presented information as painlessly as possible. The act of learning is just a necessary evil. Too often, learners in classrooms at any level are so eager to swallow and regurgitate information that they never digest the lesson. They fail to grow. They do not progress.

The Journey
The process of learning multiplies value through connections to more information and skills. Too often students simply give correct answers to get to the next lesson. Then, they can ace that part, too. Learning’s real value involves applying acquired knowledge in new, innovative, and more beneficial ways. A student masters algebra, in order to conquer calculus, then get their diploma. Except, the diploma is not the end. Learning to process information with multiple variables is the point. Then, understanding more complex processes to explain them to others creates the most value. Do not be shortsighted. The student who learns, applies, explains and contributes knowledge to a group becomes the boss and eventually benefits more. Every student moaning, “Why do I have to learn this; I’ll never use it in the real world” deserves the harsh response, “You are right. You never will use this information or any other new information with that attitude!”

The Destination
While the journey is important, the destination facilitates growth. The journey features a finite set of instructions. But, the destination continues to evolve and expand. More learning results in more questions, which results in more innovation, which results in better answers. Acing the test and advancing short circuits all the compounded, long-term benefits. The worker brags about getting a great review. Meanwhile, the leader focuses on solving problems that significantly improve the enterprise and team member’s personal well-being. Rank and file mindsets complain that leaders have enough money and they do not need more. Therefore, she does not need the worker’s best contribution. The leader simultaneously thinks that this minor contributor is hurting the team’s efforts. Then, she searches for a replacement so that all can achieve more. Next the leader resumes planning to groom her successor, then charts a path to the next adventure. Mindsets of poverty fester and deny growth. Mindsets of prosperity continue to reset destinations and promote opportunities. Acquire and develop more resources to keep pursuing additional horizons.

Ultimately, “What do I have to do to get an A?” is the wrong question. “What do I have to do to pursue my destiny” is much more satisfying. Learning is more than acquiring facts. It is acquiring new ideas and constructing them creatively. Students who only want to learn familiar material in the same way are starving themselves. Permit multiple teachers to feed your curiosity. Learn, then spread, ideas across the landscape. Let losers argue and manipulate their grade in one class. Take new knowledge and apply it with innovation toward the next learning experience. Incorporate feedback and insight to create more value. Enormous value results from pursuing destinations that continue moving just beyond reach. So, “What do I have to do to get an A?” Who cares! “What do I have to do to maximize my value?” Keep learning! Then, share the lessons with others to help everyone involved benefit more.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter and Beyond

January 6, 2017 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

One Day, One Chance, One Change

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You are only one defining decision away from a totally different life. ~Mark Batterson. John Maxwell used this quote in his book, “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn”. Consider the power of a single decision, or even a single day, changing a lifetime; even a legacy. These decisions may not happen every day, but they can happen without warning. A decision to abandon addictive behaviors qualifies as a life altering decision. So, does the decision to follow a friend to apply for your first real job. On the other hand, consider how preparation and accountability impact processing such decisions for better outcomes. Consider the comfort in anticipating how to manage big decisions and their consequences when they come.

One Chance
Be thankful for each day. Value each moment. By seizing the right moment, one chance at one decision may be all that is required. Decisions must be made. Perfect information is preferable, but never practical. However, decisions do not require perfect timing; they require willingness and time to execute. Consider someone with a dysfunctional family life. Must that family’s history dictate its legacy? Or does the decision of one child, deciding to enroll in a college curriculum with the determination to earn a degree, pave a path toward a better life for subsequent children? The decision for one child to take a chance on higher education can change the trajectory for the next generation across siblings to pursue and successfully complete college educations. Unlikely? It happened in my family.

One Change
Embrace a new season. Make a dramatic personal commitment. Do something differently. Start today. Reaffirm it tomorrow. You have a job; change and launch a career. Apply for the new opportunity. If you fail, learn and apply again. The change is in the attitude. Acquire new skills. Numerous reasons exist to stay put. The status quo is an option. It’s also a choice. So is change and progress. One decision starts the change. Attend a lecture on a Friday night instead of the latest night club. No invitation is required. Simply bring a sense of adventure and a curious mindset. Changing physical environments coincides with changing habits. The first change is a challenge. Subsequent change gets easier. Then, improved results are easier, still.

In determining life choices, establishing goals and regularly re-visiting them equips individual accomplishment. That knowledge is no secret. But accepting that truth and acting upon it reveals valuable rewards that appear as if it was some mysterious success secret. In reality, establishing and re-visiting goals is a success characteristic that progressive people regularly adopt. The secret is the courage to take a chance that a change will be better. It requires risk. It requires faith. It offers no guarantees. Failure happens. It even repeats. But persistence presents rewards. Preparation helps, too. Seek encouragement and accept it. Get a coach. Take ownership of personal improvement that enables excellence! These steps are available. They simply require selecting one day to take action to improve. Today works.

What if I fall? Oh, my darling, what if you fly? ~Erin Hanson

Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

December 28, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Fitting Dreams In Your Current Reality

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Visiting with a young server in a casual dining restaurant, she shared that her experience at a local college was going horribly. She wanted to improve her position in life. A college degree was an important dream. She even had entrepreneurial aspirations. Her problem was that classes were online. She had no experience learning in that environment. Furthermore, teachers were unresponsive. The material was difficult. She considered quitting because people like her really were not made for school. Besides, she had a good job at a well-established restaurant. To the question of what she wanted to do, she said that she really didn’t know; but she had stuff in her head. In fact, she did know what she wanted to do. She could not fit her dreams into her current reality. She needed a new reality where her dreams would fit. What to do? What to do?

Good Idea
The server had an admirable idea. She wanted education to improve her position in life. She clearly needed confidence. More importantly, she needed guidance! Sound familiar? Her current reality did not include either of these essential success characteristics. Historic explorers used local guides for a reason. Despite the explorers’ knowledge and courage, they still benefited from someone who knew the landscape where they traveled. The server was not in uncharted territory. She simply did not know anyone who had navigated it. A good idea requires guidance. It demands support.

Better Execution
Upon establishing the goal and starting down the path, relentlessly secure resources to execute successfully. Tutors, counselors, graduates all have advice to navigate academic terrain. Mentors, accountability partners, trusted advisers perform similar function for professionals. These resources do not necessarily require any costs. But, they do require boldness and tenacity to locate and use. So, ask for help. When the current reality employs the necessary resources, the experience is less of an adventure, more of a vigorous hike. Regarding the server’s studies, she did not know, what she did not know. The good news is that execution can improve. Plans can change during the journey. Help is available. Courage is the next step.

“If you want something you’ve never had you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” – Thomas Jefferson. Change direction. It is the journey, as much as the destination. The journey represents the current reality. Take another step. Obtain wise counsel. Start by asking, not complaining. Definitely ask a trusted source. Perhaps that source has a referral to someone who can better deliver the necessary help. Next, realize that the journey reflects the adventure which represents the real value of success. Treasure the journey. Upon reaching the goal immediately set a loftier, crazier one. The important skill is achieving the goal. Never settle. The more times goals are achieved, the easier it is to reach the next one. Continue to stretch reality so that even bigger dreams will fit in it!

Thanks Brandon!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

December 22, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Badly Do You Want It?

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What do you want to be when you grow up? The question is a painful cliché. The only thing worse than the question, is the person who dismisses the response! If a kid wants to be an astronaut who really has the right to tell them “no”. Consider that one current generation observed the first lunar landing. The very next generation most likely will travel on lunar shuttles. One generation! Tomorrow’s reality far exceeds last year’s impossible fantasy. Thanks to Amazon, artificial intelligence is delivered by a drone in time for this year’s Christmas. And yet, parents try to stop kids from reaching for the cupcake on top of the cabinet?

Process
Authority assumes the role of protector. That responsibility includes keeping those under care from harm. The process is to pursue new opportunities, only using current skills to manage the unexpected. With age, authority figures claim that they understand risk. Well, experience does help responsible people understand what can go wrong. But along the path to safety, authority figures forget what can go right. Progress is a byproduct of risk. Otherwise, Europeans would have never sailed west as a result of fear they would fall off the edge. Risk is to be managed, not eliminated. Eliminating risk stagnates knowledge to the present state. Managing risks allows conquering new worlds. The process requires trying, failing and improving. Without young men taking a chance to kiss the girl, the species would perish. No one wants to be slapped, but if she kisses you back it just might be worthwhile.

Goal
The goal has to be more valuable than the risk to proceed. Actually, that is just a start. Courage is necessary to pursue the goal. Someone has to want the goal bad enough to endure pain. Risk is simply acknowledging the possibility of pain. Risk poses no problem until something goes wrong. Pain typically only tests one’s resolve. In reality the test may limit the desire, but too often quitting happens before remotely approaching the limit of their resolve. Successful goals are measurable and time-based. Consequently, achievement has thresholds. And, the ability to surpass the thresholds ultimately reveal how badly anyone really wants it.

The solution is to be bold! It is easy to say that if the benefit outweighs the risk, then take the chance. The easy way does not lead to success. Really extend for the goal. Make the hard choice. If the benefit is remotely close to being equal to the risk, do it! Flex the risk muscle. By building that muscle with wins and losses from narrow margins, the big wins get easier, then bigger. Be the kid that grabs the cupcake off the top shelf. Even in falling the pain becomes less traumatic and accepting the risk gets easier. Furthermore, that kid naturally grows and attaining the top shelf gets easier! For the kid who never tries, success still gets easier, but they will never know. By not participating in the activity, they experience no achievement, nor improvement. So, how badly do you really want it? The answer comes down to, how often are you willing to try… and then try again?

December 16, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment