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How Badly Do You Want It?

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What do you want to be when you grow up? The question is a painful cliché. The only thing worse than the question, is the person who dismisses the response! If a kid wants to be an astronaut who really has the right to tell them “no”. Consider that one current generation observed the first lunar landing. The very next generation most likely will travel on lunar shuttles. One generation! Tomorrow’s reality far exceeds last year’s impossible fantasy. Thanks to Amazon, artificial intelligence is delivered by a drone in time for this year’s Christmas. And yet, parents try to stop kids from reaching for the cupcake on top of the cabinet?

Process
Authority assumes the role of protector. That responsibility includes keeping those under care from harm. The process is to pursue new opportunities, only using current skills to manage the unexpected. With age, authority figures claim that they understand risk. Well, experience does help responsible people understand what can go wrong. But along the path to safety, authority figures forget what can go right. Progress is a byproduct of risk. Otherwise, Europeans would have never sailed west as a result of fear they would fall off the edge. Risk is to be managed, not eliminated. Eliminating risk stagnates knowledge to the present state. Managing risks allows conquering new worlds. The process requires trying, failing and improving. Without young men taking a chance to kiss the girl, the species would perish. No one wants to be slapped, but if she kisses you back it just might be worthwhile.

Goal
The goal has to be more valuable than the risk to proceed. Actually, that is just a start. Courage is necessary to pursue the goal. Someone has to want the goal bad enough to endure pain. Risk is simply acknowledging the possibility of pain. Risk poses no problem until something goes wrong. Pain typically only tests one’s resolve. In reality the test may limit the desire, but too often quitting happens before remotely approaching the limit of their resolve. Successful goals are measurable and time-based. Consequently, achievement has thresholds. And, the ability to surpass the thresholds ultimately reveal how badly anyone really wants it.

The solution is to be bold! It is easy to say that if the benefit outweighs the risk, then take the chance. The easy way does not lead to success. Really extend for the goal. Make the hard choice. If the benefit is remotely close to being equal to the risk, do it! Flex the risk muscle. By building that muscle with wins and losses from narrow margins, the big wins get easier, then bigger. Be the kid that grabs the cupcake off the top shelf. Even in falling the pain becomes less traumatic and accepting the risk gets easier. Furthermore, that kid naturally grows and attaining the top shelf gets easier! For the kid who never tries, success still gets easier, but they will never know. By not participating in the activity, they experience no achievement, nor improvement. So, how badly do you really want it? The answer comes down to, how often are you willing to try… and then try again?

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December 16, 2016 - Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , ,

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