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One Day, One Chance, One Change

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You are only one defining decision away from a totally different life. ~Mark Batterson. John Maxwell used this quote in his book, “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn”. Consider the power of a single decision, or even a single day, changing a lifetime; even a legacy. These decisions may not happen every day, but they can happen without warning. A decision to abandon addictive behaviors qualifies as a life altering decision. So, does the decision to follow a friend to apply for your first real job. On the other hand, consider how preparation and accountability impact processing such decisions for better outcomes. Consider the comfort in anticipating how to manage big decisions and their consequences when they come.

One Chance
Be thankful for each day. Value each moment. By seizing the right moment, one chance at one decision may be all that is required. Decisions must be made. Perfect information is preferable, but never practical. However, decisions do not require perfect timing; they require willingness and time to execute. Consider someone with a dysfunctional family life. Must that family’s history dictate its legacy? Or does the decision of one child, deciding to enroll in a college curriculum with the determination to earn a degree, pave a path toward a better life for subsequent children? The decision for one child to take a chance on higher education can change the trajectory for the next generation across siblings to pursue and successfully complete college educations. Unlikely? It happened in my family.

One Change
Embrace a new season. Make a dramatic personal commitment. Do something differently. Start today. Reaffirm it tomorrow. You have a job; change and launch a career. Apply for the new opportunity. If you fail, learn and apply again. The change is in the attitude. Acquire new skills. Numerous reasons exist to stay put. The status quo is an option. It’s also a choice. So is change and progress. One decision starts the change. Attend a lecture on a Friday night instead of the latest night club. No invitation is required. Simply bring a sense of adventure and a curious mindset. Changing physical environments coincides with changing habits. The first change is a challenge. Subsequent change gets easier. Then, improved results are easier, still.

In determining life choices, establishing goals and regularly re-visiting them equips individual accomplishment. That knowledge is no secret. But accepting that truth and acting upon it reveals valuable rewards that appear as if it was some mysterious success secret. In reality, establishing and re-visiting goals is a success characteristic that progressive people regularly adopt. The secret is the courage to take a chance that a change will be better. It requires risk. It requires faith. It offers no guarantees. Failure happens. It even repeats. But persistence presents rewards. Preparation helps, too. Seek encouragement and accept it. Get a coach. Take ownership of personal improvement that enables excellence! These steps are available. They simply require selecting one day to take action to improve. Today works.

What if I fall? Oh, my darling, what if you fly? ~Erin Hanson

Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

December 28, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Fitting Dreams In Your Current Reality

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Visiting with a young server in a casual dining restaurant, she shared that her experience at a local college was going horribly. She wanted to improve her position in life. A college degree was an important dream. She even had entrepreneurial aspirations. Her problem was that classes were online. She had no experience learning in that environment. Furthermore, teachers were unresponsive. The material was difficult. She considered quitting because people like her really were not made for school. Besides, she had a good job at a well-established restaurant. To the question of what she wanted to do, she said that she really didn’t know; but she had stuff in her head. In fact, she did know what she wanted to do. She could not fit her dreams into her current reality. She needed a new reality where her dreams would fit. What to do? What to do?

Good Idea
The server had an admirable idea. She wanted education to improve her position in life. She clearly needed confidence. More importantly, she needed guidance! Sound familiar? Her current reality did not include either of these essential success characteristics. Historic explorers used local guides for a reason. Despite the explorers’ knowledge and courage, they still benefited from someone who knew the landscape where they traveled. The server was not in uncharted territory. She simply did not know anyone who had navigated it. A good idea requires guidance. It demands support.

Better Execution
Upon establishing the goal and starting down the path, relentlessly secure resources to execute successfully. Tutors, counselors, graduates all have advice to navigate academic terrain. Mentors, accountability partners, trusted advisers perform similar function for professionals. These resources do not necessarily require any costs. But, they do require boldness and tenacity to locate and use. So, ask for help. When the current reality employs the necessary resources, the experience is less of an adventure, more of a vigorous hike. Regarding the server’s studies, she did not know, what she did not know. The good news is that execution can improve. Plans can change during the journey. Help is available. Courage is the next step.

“If you want something you’ve never had you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” – Thomas Jefferson. Change direction. It is the journey, as much as the destination. The journey represents the current reality. Take another step. Obtain wise counsel. Start by asking, not complaining. Definitely ask a trusted source. Perhaps that source has a referral to someone who can better deliver the necessary help. Next, realize that the journey reflects the adventure which represents the real value of success. Treasure the journey. Upon reaching the goal immediately set a loftier, crazier one. The important skill is achieving the goal. Never settle. The more times goals are achieved, the easier it is to reach the next one. Continue to stretch reality so that even bigger dreams will fit in it!

Thanks Brandon!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

December 22, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Badly Do You Want It?

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What do you want to be when you grow up? The question is a painful cliché. The only thing worse than the question, is the person who dismisses the response! If a kid wants to be an astronaut who really has the right to tell them “no”. Consider that one current generation observed the first lunar landing. The very next generation most likely will travel on lunar shuttles. One generation! Tomorrow’s reality far exceeds last year’s impossible fantasy. Thanks to Amazon, artificial intelligence is delivered by a drone in time for this year’s Christmas. And yet, parents try to stop kids from reaching for the cupcake on top of the cabinet?

Process
Authority assumes the role of protector. That responsibility includes keeping those under care from harm. The process is to pursue new opportunities, only using current skills to manage the unexpected. With age, authority figures claim that they understand risk. Well, experience does help responsible people understand what can go wrong. But along the path to safety, authority figures forget what can go right. Progress is a byproduct of risk. Otherwise, Europeans would have never sailed west as a result of fear they would fall off the edge. Risk is to be managed, not eliminated. Eliminating risk stagnates knowledge to the present state. Managing risks allows conquering new worlds. The process requires trying, failing and improving. Without young men taking a chance to kiss the girl, the species would perish. No one wants to be slapped, but if she kisses you back it just might be worthwhile.

Goal
The goal has to be more valuable than the risk to proceed. Actually, that is just a start. Courage is necessary to pursue the goal. Someone has to want the goal bad enough to endure pain. Risk is simply acknowledging the possibility of pain. Risk poses no problem until something goes wrong. Pain typically only tests one’s resolve. In reality the test may limit the desire, but too often quitting happens before remotely approaching the limit of their resolve. Successful goals are measurable and time-based. Consequently, achievement has thresholds. And, the ability to surpass the thresholds ultimately reveal how badly anyone really wants it.

The solution is to be bold! It is easy to say that if the benefit outweighs the risk, then take the chance. The easy way does not lead to success. Really extend for the goal. Make the hard choice. If the benefit is remotely close to being equal to the risk, do it! Flex the risk muscle. By building that muscle with wins and losses from narrow margins, the big wins get easier, then bigger. Be the kid that grabs the cupcake off the top shelf. Even in falling the pain becomes less traumatic and accepting the risk gets easier. Furthermore, that kid naturally grows and attaining the top shelf gets easier! For the kid who never tries, success still gets easier, but they will never know. By not participating in the activity, they experience no achievement, nor improvement. So, how badly do you really want it? The answer comes down to, how often are you willing to try… and then try again?

December 16, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

You Have Permission

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“Dare to be great” is an inspirational quote that challenges people to get motivated and pursue their dreams. The idea suggests that achievement is a result of external encouragement. And, in many cases an external push goes a long way to help individual progress. But, extraordinary progress comes from the inside. Fiery speeches and emotionally charged challenges are easy to see as inspirational. Typically, a group benefits from the rhetoric and the communal rush results in incredible accomplishments. But, for an individual to exceed personal capability, that person only needs permission.

Faith
Permission typically looks like a parent or authority figure granting the ability for someone under their watch to do something. But, permission gets the best results when it is internally generated. A person realizes that their inner strength, or act of faith, can unleash power leading directly to significant achievement. Regardless of how any individual observes, or exercises their faith, the inner voice that guides decisions gives permission to dream bigger and to reach new heights. Exercise caution in blindly obeying faith. However, in selecting and pursuing any goal, faith needs to be understood. Whatever an individual believes will guide them to some accomplishment. The voice that grants permission determines the size and scope. The power is inside each of us whether to pursue a given goal or not. The choice is yours. Regardless, permission has already been granted.

Action
Permission means you have authority. Why wait any longer? Of course, problems and obstacles will surface. They appear, regardless. In most cases, they existed before the opportunity for action even appeared. But achievement, satisfaction and success is on the other side of the obstacles. People commonly have grandiose desires to express themselves creatively. Who does not dream of singing, writing, speaking, leading, performing, launching? The permission has been granted. Accept the assignment and take a chance in front of the audience. Yes, failure is a possibility. So, is a second and third chance. Permission is immune to failure. Upon seizing permission, pursuing additional aspirations gets easier. Courage to try again must be summoned. Yet, once permission is granted, it cannot be revoked. An individual may relinquish it. That is a choice. But, permission is granted. That is a gift.

Once permission has been granted, no one needs to double check. The recipient can now take risks. That person would be wise to use their best judgment. They also will want to use all the skills and talents at their disposal. But, no one needs to ask again. In that sense, permission is liberating. Permission empowers being responsibly selfish. Heck, it empowers being irresponsibly selfish! Simply, permission gives the power to be. And, it is available for the taking. Just receive it. Use it. Check back later to see the results. It is time to go!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond

December 7, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person, Better World | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment