Building Community Through Better Relationships

Give Me Heat & I’ll Give You Wood

Randy Friedrich

An old man in the depths of winter shivered in his cabin deep in the woods. With only an empty potbelly stove to keep him company, he barked toward the stove, “Give me heat and I’ll give you wood.” He froze waiting for the response. Who among us is freezing waiting for wood? Waiting for outside influences to intercede on your behalf and resolve your issues is both childish and unlikely. If only you could resolve overwhelming individual challenges in another way…

Identify The Problem
All decisions have consequences. But, do we fully embrace the consequences of our life choices. When considering individual challenges in life, too often one specific problem is really the linchpin. It is the highest priority. It may be disguised by other inconveniences or factors, but the true problem is evident. You unsuccessfully seek work. Is the problem unemployment or personal pride? You want to lose weight. Is it too many calories? Is it denial in accepting health changes accompanying an aging body? The problem has a root. Identify the root with honesty and clarity in order to manage it. Symptoms are deceptive. Seek the real cause that created the problem. Waiting for the world to change and see your challenges your way is the wrong answer. Realizing what factor actually drives the problem, then address it. This step is hard, but is necessary to start.

Set Your Goal
The next step is the action to address the factor that drives the problem. If poor job performance plagues you, then identify and acquire the skills to improve. If your corrective action is not your responsibility, then adjust your attitude. Or, find an environment that better fits your initiative and skills. This problem is self-entitlement, not poor performance. Regardless, to improve the situation, it may require a change of scenery. It will require a plan. Go to one more job fair. Consult with a placement professional. Then repeat. Achieving goals require action and tenacity. But first, establish the goal in measurable detail and start executing your plan to achieve the goal.

Find Your Solution
Resolving problems requires choices and actions. You get a job offer. Take it or keep looking for a better one. You hit the weight loss goal. Continue the positive habit. Take the necessary step to enjoy the resolution. Progress requires work. People suffer through their personal frozen existence all the time. It is easy to sit rigidly, complain about circumstances, then complain more about the consequences. But by identifying the goal, then attacking it, change happens. Add a good decision to the process and positive change happens. Begin executing the improved reality.

Do you want resolution, or just to be right? If the goal is to be right, then don’t even start the process to overcome your challenges. Your suffering is your reward. The old man in the cabin did not have a problem with the cold. He had a problem with control. He stubbornly wanted to control the cause and the effect. Sometimes you can. But, are you willing to die because of the times you can’t? Understand the solution that you seek. Solve the problem. Make it a priority. Insurmountable problems evolve from stacking problems on top of each other. Solve the most pressing problem first and let the others tumble. Get started. Problems are growing while you wait.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond


November 30, 2016 Posted by | Better Person | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

This Ain’t No Dress Rehearsal


Two old friends are having lunch and discussing their future. They both just sent their youngest child to great universities. The older of the two acknowledged how his world was now different, and he was now making a bigger bet on himself. Exclaiming, “This Ain’t No Dress Rehearsal”, he shared his next planned project. He was not throwing caution to the wind, just boldly stepping forward focused on his interests and passions. He committed to fulfilling his personal ambitions and deploying all his talent! He prepared for his next great, individual performance.

Live Full and Die Empty
Legendary motivational speaker, Les Brown, often exhorted “Live full and die empty”. The sentiment refers to exhausting all resources and skills in pursuing specific goals. Don’t exhaust them all at once. But apply them toward your individual aspirations. You cannot take your talents with you. Consider your priorities. Be responsibly selfish. Contribute your skills to your family, your community, your faith. Just contribute them in such a way that you create more value because of your choice. Under no circumstances do you bury your talent. The next, great performance demands deploying every bit of talent inside you. Let the critics quibble over the performance. Give your all!

Start Where You Are
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do What you can.” ~Arthur Ashe, tennis legend and humanitarian. I lectured to a high school class in urban Nashville about entrepreneurship. I asked what do you need to be an entrepreneur. A young lady answered “A college degree.” I politely, but firmly told her “no”. I quickly added, “Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying a college degree is not important. And, I encourage you to get one.” To be clear, I am a monstrous advocate of higher education, and have my children’s college debt to prove it! The point to her is to maximize the resources at her disposal. Learn the skills and business acumen necessary to reach your dreams from people who are doing it. Next, identify activities that you enjoy which can bring value to a specific audience. Then, ignore all the people in your life who are sitting on the sidelines and telling you that your ideas are silly. Under what authority does someone without ideas or ambition get to pass judgment on people with them? So, take your talents and seize an opportunity!

Your personal performance is not limited by a specific timeframe or place. It works best when it is a body of work that takes time to develop fully. Live life to the fullest each and every day. Take a companion with you. Call them a friend, accountability partner, or significant other, but have another talented individual on the big stage with you. Just remember that this is your work, your purpose and consequently, your masterpiece. Give this life-performance everything you got! Use whatever you can grab at your disposal to make it great! This ain’t no dress rehearsal!! This is the performance of your life. Start Today.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

November 23, 2016 Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Dream While You’re Awake


My best decision last week was to take a Saturday morning nap, then wake up and dream. Fresh ideas emerged that resulted in opportunities that I am pursuing today. Dream while you are awake. It’s easier to make them a reality!

First Is Mental
Dreams are typically believed to exist in the mind. They are purely a mental exercise. Dreams happen when people sleep which implies that the body is resting. But then, how do you explain sleepwalking? Or waking up in a cold sweat? The mental state for dreaming is an expectation, not a physical law. Even when people talk metaphorically about dreaming, it remains a mental exercise. However, incredible accomplishments emerge from these dreams that take shape while awake. Either in the subconscious, or the mind’s eye, desire for achieving incredible deeds are associated with dreams. The reality is that innovation, or super-human accomplishment, incubates within virtually limitless mental capabilities. And then, it happens!

Next is Physical
Ideas take shape and their limitations become obvious under intellectual scrutiny, then choices tend to move toward practical and feasible options. Resources and constraints enter the picture when approaching physical possibilities. Reality abruptly interrupts dreams! Great ideas are abandoned because too little time is available. Or, the technology for unprecedented execution is unavailable. The right people to get it done are inaccessible. Consequently, only practical paths are pursued. The physical becomes limited to what can happen in the current reality. But, do not fall for that deception! Reality is merely an understanding of what current thinking can accomplish. Dreams empower the impossible to happen. And, everything is impossible until someone does it. So whether asleep or awake, let dreams lead the way to physical manifestation; not the other way around. Circumnavigating the globe, breaking the sound barrier, free falling from the edge of space were all dreams. They were all impossible. They are all now part of recorded history!

Consciously, people only scratch the surface of possibilities. In the absence of external restrictions, people have the option to reach inside and explore limitless possibilities. Encounter a physical threat or crisis, then watch the body exceed its preconceived capabilities. People run farther, demonstrate great feats of strengths, or solve complex problems when threatened. The power was hidden in the mental state. The physical capabilities existed all along. The point is to identify your dreams. Create them in a quiet place where they receive singular attention. No one really sleeps well in noisy environments. Consequently, people do not dream well in noisy environments. Even the Old Testament teaches, “Be still and know that I am God.” If greatness is in you, then give it an environment to incubate and birth. Then, get the greatness out of you! Not just in a crisis, but whenever is necessary. The choice is simple. Dream bigger! Achieve more!

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter And Beyond

November 16, 2016 Posted by | Better Person, Better World | , , , , , , | Leave a comment