Building Community Through Better Relationships

Nourish Your Dreams


Foodies go crazy over a great meal! They are a unified community that stalk and share incredible multi-sensory events. The various smells, sights, textures, and of course, tastes makes each experience uniquely memorable. Foodies’ fanaticism resembles the most audacious dreams. A group of people can have similar sensory stimuli, but their individual experiences and aspirations are highly personal.

Great meals are necessary because people physically need the nourishment that it provides. But, the dining experience maximizes this necessity’s pleasure. Consider that foodies are totally absorbed with maximizing enjoyment of memorable meals. Likewise, great dreamers obsess over fulfillment of their dreams. People must eat to live; but real living involves completely indulging one’s deepest desires!!

Salad represents the meal’s beginning. It is probably the healthiest and most practical part of the meal. Conversely, dreams start with expectations that something unbelievable is about to happen. Invariably, the practicality of the whimsical idea gets in the way. Too many practical people stop at the salad. They count their calories; they want to avoid appearing greedy; they pace themselves. While these reasons are valid, they inhibit enjoyment. Dreamers don’t let others’ expectations interfere with their enjoyment. Eat the salad as part of the meal. But, don’t stop there. If you dream of creating great art, don’t stop at sketching because it is more practical. Paint, sculpt, perform! Dreams don’t have to be practical, they have to be yours. Eat the salad, then grab the next fork.

The steak is the main course. Most likely it requires the most preparation, involves the most options and will be the most filling. Identical to dreams, the steak symbolizes what is desirable and worth the wait. To nourish a dream, a person must commit to seizing it, then embrace its benefits and its problems. A great steak is delicious, yet may be bad for the blood pressure. Nevertheless, neither pursuing one dream, nor digesting one steak, will singularly result in shameful failure or a heart attack. As a matter of fact, pursuing the dream or devouring the steak may be the most exciting and fulfilling part of the experience! In both cases, choose carefully based on a balance of yearning, caution, and enjoyment. All things being equal, splurge on the enjoyment!

Dreams do come true. Maybe not immediately, and not each one, but they do. Also, dreams are sweet. And you deserve them, just like dessert! Logically, no one really needs dessert. But, looking at the desert tray and chuckling that “I gained five pounds just looking at that” honestly is not very funny anymore. The smile in your eyes after biting into a sensational dessert creates more joy, than all the logic you can muster for watching your waistline. Dessert is the standing ovation. And, you don’t get a standing ovation if you never walk on the big stage. Any voice discouraging you from eating dessert is probably not having any fun. Take a chance. Dream big. Enjoy dessert!

Fundamentally, a great meal is a joyous occasion. So, is doing something that you thought you could not do. The voice of caution is in place to reduce the odds of getting killed. It should not eliminate all joy. Eat the full meal: salad, steak, dessert! In the aggregate, it is balanced and fulfilling; just like most dreams. Perform on stage, write a story, travel to new destinations! Beyond your comfort zone life is fed, and subsequently grown. Also, eat dessert. Look harder at it. I am certain that something nourishing is somewhere in there.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond


March 31, 2015 Posted by | Better Person, Better World | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

We’ve Got to Love Outside Our Circle

Circle of Trust

Circles are eternal. They have no beginning and they have no end. But, they are contained. They represent boundaries. Either a point is inside the circle or outside the circle. While circles are wonderfully simple in this way, relationships are unfortunately complicated. Whether boys are looking for love in all the wrong places, or a family simply seeks to love their neighbor, the result is often messy human interactions. The boundary that should allow relationships to be inclusive, often becomes the barrier that impedes human interaction. To create better functioning relationships, people need to love outside their circles. But how?

Geographic Community
People used to be defined by tight-knit communities. Families lived in the same area from one generation to the next. The community benefitted from similar values, ideals, and family histories. Sameness was safe. And, differences were seen as dangerous. People loved their neighborhoods; outsiders were not welcome. But, the human spirit is adventurous. Consequently, people risked seeking better environments and these cocoons were eventually disrupted. Vibrant communities embrace the change and adapt. The result is people outside the original circle entering and the community benefiting. Loving outside the circle welcomes progress. It means accepting, knowing and loving different folks. They are coming anyway.

Social Community
Social circles tend to be larger than geographic communities, but erect boundaries that are just as rigid. Places of worship, country clubs, and community groups are strongholds of commonality. These circles are so clearly defined that they don’t simply stop at protecting themselves from outsiders. They protect themselves from each other’s ugly personality traits. A classic example is the church matriarch who routinely fakes loving. Teary-eyed, she asks fellow worshippers to pray for Uncle Oscar’s bunions. Meanwhile the entire congregation secretly knows that her teenaged demon is going straight to Hell on a rocket! Social communities are governed by convention and mores. But, little room remains among their rules for love and honesty. The social circle is designed to remain tightly knit so that no one can enter with a sense of accountability. To be truly functional, the circle’s artificial boundaries of convention and mores must fall so that people can love beyond them. But, does anyone really remember where the conventions and mores initially came from. Who invents good manners anyway?

Virtual Community
In modern virtual relationships, geography is de-emphasized. Actually, humanity is too often de-emphasized. Members of these communities can be from anywhere and assume any personality. Commonality bridging distances and cultures seems to be better. Except that members of virtual communities must be more discerning. Nevertheless, relationships can still evolve and extend. Because of porous geographic and cultural boundaries inherent in a virtual community, loving outside pre-determined boundaries happens more easily. Consequently, virtual communities are capable of expanding faster than the other community types. Ideas are introduced, circulated and removed quickly. While one can never eliminate the benefits of physical relationships, unique interactions in virtual environments bring opportunities for healthy connections. Such connections reflect loving beyond boundaries because virtual communities are conditioned to be more fluid.

Loving outside your circles is fundamentally knocking down barriers. Love is a human condition that ensures perpetuation of the species in a physical sense. Likewise, it represents not killing each other in a social sense. Embracing people who look and think alike is easy. That represents our circle. It’s harder to love outside the circle. But, it is more valuable! Allow people to earn trust; it facilitates productivity. Embrace inclusion of different contributors outside your circle. Love them, so they can contribute to your better tomorrow.

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter & Beyond

March 6, 2015 Posted by | Better Communication, Better Community, Better World | , , , , , , | 1 Comment