Building Community Through Better Relationships

It’s RARE: Why Change Has Value!

While mentoring a professional wanting to make a significant personal transition, we focused on the importance of change. The problem involved balancing the difficulty in holding established habits versus achieving improved results. This difficulty is the essence of self-improvement. Trying to remain the same defeats the purpose of change. So to emphasize the value of change, we explored a path. Like any treasure, change has value because it is RARE!

“And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.” ~Dr. Seuss. People develop routines to perform simple tasks easily. Problems start when routine tasks are no longer helpful. Then, problems get bigger as more complex tasks are required. Consequently to overcome these problems, routines must be abandoned. “Un-slumping yourself” or changing for the better is uncomfortable. But the sooner you become more flexible, the more easily you can get comfortable adopting different behaviors needed for improvement.

Whether focusing on personal habits, traditions, or choices, you have options. First, acknowledge them. Then, embrace your options and use them! Change your waking time to increase hours for more productivity. Then, progress to spending your leisure time doing higher performance activities. Walk during lunchtime to improve your health, or listen to motivational messages during your evening commute. Next, identify and implement more dramatic habits that you individually connect with success. When you stumble, start again. The point is to keep selecting alternatives until achieving the improved results that you want. The drive to push relentlessly toward ongoing improvement is uncommon. But, success through continuous growth regularly happens. Start the process.

This step is hardest. Relationships are deeply embedded, tradition-bound and personal. The challenge with relationships is the comfort that it provides. Who among us has not remained in unhealthy relationships with friends, relatives, or significant others because they were comfortable or socially expected? It seems unfair, but distancing from comfortable and familiar environments are the root of change. Too often, the closest relationships represents the heaviest anchors to prevent your progress. For personal improvement, evaluate which relationships weigh down your journey and which ones ease the burden. Consciously choose which relationships you will keep and which ones you will jettison. Successful change efforts often sink because toxic relationships are valued more than the opportunity for self-improvement. Too often we let relationships define us, instead of letting our personal aspirations define us. Value empowering relationships.

Winners perform differently than losers. Replicating winning behaviors and experiences clearly separates the two. After identifying the winning behaviors that you aspire to own, engage in experiences that align with your desired success. Visit different places that reflect your improved self. Eat at healthier restaurants. Shop in different stores. Vacation in inspiring locations. Intentionally create experiences that demonstrate the improved you. It may be easy to do the same old things, in the same old places. But, you will get the same old results. And, that defeats the purpose of change.

Consciously, implement your new reality. Most people want to bring their old baggage with them to their new address. But, a new mindset reflects new experiences. That successful transition means work. This is why improvement is RARE. And like most RARE items, they are valuable because few people have them. So, what will you change to become more valuable?

By Glenn W Hunter
Principal of Hunter and Beyond


January 5, 2015 - Posted by | Better Community, Better Person | , , , , , ,

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