Building Community Through Better Relationships

Ready or Not Here I Come

For generations, kids from assorted locations, tax brackets, social classes, and ethnicities have played Hide and Seek. “Ready or not here I come!” is the game’s familiar refrain. Whether you counted to twenty by ones or to one hundred by fives the game really begins when those words are shouted.

Neighborhoods often had one kid who always seemed to find the others and return to home base first. He was better than the others at Hide and Seek. That kid always seemed to win. Typically, he was not exceptional in any conspicuous way. He may have been fast so that he could outrun others back to base. Or he may have been thin so that he could successfully hide behind trees. But, physical characteristics alone did not explain Hide and Seek dominance.

Fast forward to adulthood, some people still seem to win more often than others. The lessons from Hide and Seek shine light on this transition from participant to winner. First, winners are defined as individuals that establish a clear goal and achieve it. In Hide and Seek, the goal is to find all the other kids and return to home base before them. In adulthood, winning can involve: being first, performing best, having most, or simply finishing.  Anyone with a goal and achieves it, by definition is a winner! So, what common attributes do Hide and Seek winners demonstrate?

  • Joy – The kid who wins at Hide and Seek loves playing. When the gang gathers to decide what to play next, guess what the winning kid suggests? The kid has confidence, probably as a result of early success. The resulting cycle is: I had success, it was fun, I have confidence, I want to do it again, I have success. Joy is getting to do what you love and love getting to do it. Wanting to capture that good feeling remains into adulthood.
  • Tenacity – The Hide and Seek superstar identifies with his success. The kid wants to get better at the game because he knows the other kids are gunning for his crown. Even, if the other kids are simply content with running and hiding, the winner is motivated to compete better in case they change their mind. This behavior continues later in life as the winner finds subsequent passions and attacks success in those areas, too. He pursues the grind of practice because he loves the accolades of victory.
  • Vision – The winner walks through the neighborhood looking for great places to hide. He notices subtle changes in where objects are located so they may become new hiding places. He sees the successful hiding places that others use so he can return to them when it is his turn to seek. The winner is always preparing his mental map, studying the landscape and using his evolving intelligence for future success. He maintains a mental picture of himself winning.
  • Speed – All the zeal, desire and preparation are for naught without action. In Hide and Seek, speed is an essential action. The quicker he finds each kid, the less time they have to grow bold enough to risk dashing for home base. Nevertheless after finding each player, the winner still needs to outrun them to home base. He does not have to be the fastest kid. He just has to be faster than each kid when he finds them.

Alas, children grow up. “Youth is wasted on the young.”, according to George Bernard Shaw. But, is it really? Children do mature and become concerned with education, careers, causes, entrepreneurship. However, childhood lessons still apply. Joy, tenacity, vision and speed result in success in both youth and maturity. Good grades, job opportunities, changing the world, launching a business all involve displaying these attributes. Whether it is an individual or team, navigating these characteristics is essential to reaching an established goal. They are essential to winning.

So, shout “Ready or not here I come!” Kids playing Hide and Seek say this. And, these kids are everywhere. They are of all ages in every size, shape and color. Be one of the winners; they are the ones that are coming and actually find what they seek!

By Glenn W Hunter


December 12, 2012 - Posted by | Better Person | , , , , , , , , ,

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